Relationships Are Hard. Having Kids Makes Them Harder.

Many couples enter parenthood knowing some things will change in their relationship. But most don’t realize how dramatically parenthood and family life can shift the balance of emotional labor, household responsibilities, communication, and partnership. Over time, this invisible mental load can create resentment, disconnection, conflict, and exhaustion for both partners.

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YOU’RE NEW PARENTS

Figuring Out New Relationship Dynamics After Baby

The early years of parenthood are one of the biggest life transitions a couple can go through. You're sleep-deprived, your identities are shifting, and the expectations you each brought into this are bumping up against the reality of actually doing it together. What used to work between you may not work anymore, and it can be hard to find the time, energy, or words to make your relationship feel better.

Using principles from the Fair Play Method and Gottman Method, I help couples navigate this transition more intentionally: building better systems for communication and division of labor, staying emotionally connected through the chaos, and creating a family rhythm that reflects your shared values.

YOU’RE STRUGGLING TO FIGURE OUT

How To Parent As A Team

Parenting is a lot of things, but it is not easy. Modern parenthood comes with a particular kind of noise: social media, competing philosophies, and anxiety about screens and schedules. These issues are so hard to navigate, and it can feel impossible to get on the same page about how to approach them..

Drawing on the Gottman Method, I help couples get off opposite sides of the argument and onto the same side of the problem. That means developing a shared language around parenting, strengthening the skills you each bring to it, and creating shared family values.

YOU’RE BOTH DROWNING & NEED HELP

Redistributing The Mental Load

Most couples with kids aren't struggling because they don't love each other, but rather because modern family life generates an enormous amount of invisible work, and no one instinctively knows how to manage it as a team. The result is two people who are both overwhelmed, both feeling unseen, and neither sure how to do things differently.

Using the Fair Play Method, I help couples get on the same page about what's actually required to run a household and raise a family intentionally. When the invisible load that each partner carries is made visible, resentment has less room to grow and the relationship has more room to breathe.

WORD ON THE STREET

“I cannot express my support for her and her work enough. Alyza is kind, compassionate, and knowledgeable. She meets clients where they are and empowers them to be the best versions of themselves. Clients are sure to grow in her care and beyond.”

THE LOGISTICS

  • I see clients virtually throughout Ohio & Texas, and in person in Oberlin, Ohio.

  • Intake sessions for couples are $185 and follow up sessions are $170. All sessions are 50-minutes unless additional time is requested.

  • Short answer: as often as you’d like.

    Long answer: I’ve found (and research has, too), that the relationship between a therapist and her client is the #1 predictor of success in therapy. So, I typically recommend starting with weekly sessions to build a solid foundation, then figuring out together what frequency serves your long term goals.

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